I am not an expert in this field but I have learned some valuable lessons that I can share with you. I made mistakes and I learned from them and I want to help you so you don’t make the same mistakes. If you don’t listen that is on you but I feel you can learn from my mistakes so you don’t make the same ones.
Spending one on one time with your children is important. Back in my day we didn’t have cellphones but we had other things that used up valuable time. Today the big thing is cellphones. Put your phone down and spend some time with your kids. I have seen parents on their phones and their children trying to tell them something that was important and the parent missed it because they were too involved in their game on their phone or texting someone. That is really sad.
Plan an activity with your children and do something special. Don’t use this time to kill two birds with one stone. By this I mean don’t plan something you want to do and fit their little time in the middle somewhere. Plan something just for them. Make it just you and them don’t bring other adults with you so you can’t give them the time they need. This should be your time with them not your time with them and someone else.
Do something that they are interested in not some activity you want to do. Ask them what they would like to do. It probably isn’t what you had planned.
Don’t over burden your friends and family with the care of your children. They are your children and so you need to schedule time that you care for them. There is nothing wrong with getting help from others when you need it but don’t over burden those around you or you will burn them out.