Dear Pastor Sam
Dear Pastor Sam,
My wife and I separated and we have two adult children. My wife is dating someone else and just recently she filed for divorce. My children are blaming me for the separation and divorce and I don't know how to deal with it. I moved to Texas because I had a job offer there and my daughter has gotten very angry with me because she feels I have abandoned her. My son lives in Missouri and my daughter moved in with her mother and they live in Kentucky, I really don't want my kids to hate me because of this separation and divorce but it really feels like I am being made out to be the bad guy. My daughter is being filled with lies from her mother and she won't talk with me or answer my calls or letters. I have even tried to text her but still no replies. My daughter is single and my son is married with one child. His wife doesn't want him to have anything to do with me as she is good friends with his mother. Any advice?
Stuck in the middle
Dear Stuck in the middle,
Your situation sounds like something I have heard before. My advice might not be what you want to hear but please understand this is a very touch situation, Follow you gut when making a decision. First give your daughter a little space. If you bombard her with calls, texts, and letters you may overwhelm her. Give her a bit of space and then just let her know you are there for her and don't push her for a reply.
As far as your son goes approach with caution and don't talk bad about his mother or his wife. Allow him to see through the situation. Pray and ask God to give you direction. Understand the God is in control and will help you through this situation.
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