Dear Pastor Sam
Dear Pastor Sam,
Today is not a good day for me. My husband filed for divorce and I am torn apart. I have two young children and I am not sure what I am going to do. What I am concerned about is that their father becomes so involved with his new girlfriend that he does spend any time with his kids. What can I do?
I am sorry about the situation you are in and I wish I had a simple answer for you. Divorce is never pleasant and usually very hard on the family.
Here are a few things I want to suggest. Don’t cut their father out of the picture just because he has a girlfriend and you think he might be using her to replace you.
Give him the opportunity to do the right thing. Don’t bad mouth him to your kids as they will defend him against you and you will end up looking like the bad person. Give them all the love you have and always teach them to do the right thing.
Be sure to get a lawyer to protect your rights. Don’t expect that you can work out your problems without a lawyer. I have never seen a situation where that kind of thing worked out.
Seek support from family and friends and try to stay as positive as you can. Pray and seek counsel from God and your Pastor.
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