Abusive relationships only bring more trouble. If a guy or a girl uses a lot of bad language at the beginning of the relationship you can be assured they will use it when you have been together longer. If they hit you that is the clue that the relationship ought to end. When I was looking for a relationship here is what I looked for (seriously): Do they drink or smoke? Do they use foul language? Do they use Heinz Ketchup and Miracle Whip? Do they attend Church regularly? How do they treat other people you know? Do they hate Chinese food? Do they like dogs? Do they throw things at you? Do they hit you? Are they faithful and loyal? Will they cheat on you? Will they trust you?
That is just a few of the things I look for in a relationship. They have helped me in my relationships. My first one was a rotten one because I let a couple of the things above slip. Kelly was different as all of the things she met. I can say she has been the best thing to happen to me. I love her very much and she is a jewel. A very rare one at that.
I hope you will make a list of what you expect and stick by it. Then you will have a better relationships. I have a great many friends and I want them all to have a safe and enjoyable life.
Well, go and have a great day and I wish you the very best.